What Is Your Love Personality
? - Part 2
is your Love Personality ? - Part 2
By Alina Ruigrok
are the main trends that most people fall into following. This does not
mean that a person who has a certain love trend cannot carry qualities
from other trends, however. It just means they in general carry that love
personality. There is no trend better than the other either. Each trend
is unique and interesting in its own way.
When two people follow the same trend, it is
fabulous because they both know exactly what the other is fond of and
what to expect as well. There are hardly mixed signals. Having different
trends is also a wonderful thing. When a couple has their individual love
personality, it opens the door for each one to learn new ways to love
expressions and can create a great trend combination!
Considering and accepting our partner's different trend
of love is extremely important to do. If you do not, it will seem like
you are just determined to have the romance in your relationship to go
your way, by your trend. This will definitely cause unhappiness and have
a very high possibility for your mate to back away from romance with you,
because he or she will feel that there is lack of attention towards their
needs and trends concerning romancing. So remember to be considerate and
learn to adapt to their ways too.
It feels fabulous when our lover is being considerate
of our trend, respecting it, following it with us often. You cannot be
the one always being considered however. You will then become what is
called a Constant Receiver. Constant Receivers are always on the look
out for themselves. They never look beyond their trend and the needs that
are involved with it. They always observe whether or not they are getting
what they need and want from their lovers, and if they feel they could
be getting more, they grab more.
What about your partner? What are his or her needs?
Have you even considered what their trend is about and how you can compromise
and follow theirs sometimes? Never let these questions go unnoticed. If
you find yourself being a constant receiver, it does not mean you are
a bad person, but that you have been a little careless. When you realize
this, stop yourself and look deep down. You will probably realize that
you are aware of your over receiving, and have been so flattered by it
that you got carried away. Once you have sorted this out, you can start
returning the favor back to your partner.
Being a Constant Giver also has its down side. Yes,
you would be always pleasing your partner, but what about you? Is having
your trend considered not important? Of course it is! Do not be too furious
with your mate if this happens. Just remember what you just learned about
Constant Receivers. Your mate most likely did not ignore your trend needs
on purpose, but just got carried away with being pampered.
After all, you did you create this situation when you
were over giving! So many people fall under this category of giving too
much. This is because most people believe it is more important to please
their lovers than having their own needs and wants fulfilled. Caring about
pleasing your partner is good, but disowning your own romantic identity
and needs, is not. Get back on track by getting your guilt in order first.
Know that you should not feel guilty for wanting or needing something
from your partner.
You are entitled to having those needs fulfilled. You
also should not look at giving as the good thing, while receiving is the
bad thing. They are both good when equally exchanged. Start bringing your
romantic trend and needs to your mate's attention. You can do this by
bringing up a good movie that is coming out and letting them know that
you really want to see it. Re-teach them that they should give too, instead
of always receiving from you.
Just highlight the fact that there are different
love trends and that they are all unique and deserve to be followed and
participated in. As a couple, you will not only please each other, but
learn more about the other as well! As long as you do not forget this
and understand the importance of an equal share between giving and receiving,
your combination of love personalities will live in a content environment.
About the author
Ruigrok is an independent relationship expert for Love-sessions.com
helping those in need for dating, relationship, marital, sexual and other
personal advice through e-sessions.