Top Ten Best Ways to Really
Mess Up Your Chances of Finding a Sweetheart Online
Ten Best Ways to Really Mess Up Your Chances of Finding a Sweetheart Online
By Kathryn B. Lord, L.C.S.W.
you want to dive bomb your chances of finding your perfect mate online,
the surest way to do it is to post a lousy photo. Anyone who has spent
five minutes cruising around a dating site knows how bad the pictures
Here are ten top offenses:
1. Poor photo quality: Too
dark, or over exposed and too light, fuzzy, not clear. Amateurish. Looks
like the poster doesn’t care enough to put up a good one.
2. Guys in caps: Why
do men love their caps so much? My first question - and I’m not
the only one - is “what’s underneath the hat? What’s
this guy hiding?” If the hair is thin or gone, I want to know. Bald
I don’t mind. But caps just look dorky, guys. Take them off.
3. T-shirts, muscle shirts, sunglasses,
and beer bellies: Believe it or not, I
just saw a guy’s photo with: A baseball cap, sunglasses and a quarter
of a woman’s head, right next to his. Jeez. He wasn’t that
bad looking - no beer belly - but really!
4. Poor grooming - men: Ungroomed,
untrimmed beards, stringy hair. Generally slobby presentations. Such a
turn-off for women.
5. Hair - Women: Way
too much hair, clouds and mountains of it, often hiding their faces.
6. Hats and sunglasses - women:
Okay, what are YOU hiding, ladies?
7. Poses - women: Too
far away, glamour shots (the guys have learned to recognize those, so
don't bother), too seductive poses (I saw a shot of a woman in a bubble
bath -- what do you suppose she was advertising?), bedroom eyes or come
hither looks. Gives the wrong message - that is, unless the poster just
wants sexy inquiries.
8. Distracting backgrounds:
Either other people in the photo or cropped out
(Tacky, tacky! Whose arm is that?) or depressing and forlorn interiors.
Be careful about what else is in the photo besides you.
9. Outdated photo: Even
if the reader can't tell your picture was taken years ago, if and when
the two of you meet in real time and space, the difference between how
you looked then and now can be a deal killer.
10. Don’t post a photo at all:
a practically sure move to get yourself completely
Advice from the Romance Coach for both men and women:
You are looking for a date - present yourself as if
you are going on one. Get a haircut, be clean and neat. Even guys with
beer bellies can dress in ways that are becoming. And then, make an appointment
with a professional photographer. It'll be worth every penny.
About the author
I am Kathryn Lord and I am a CyberRomance
Coach. I get people ready for love, help them find a Sweetheart using
the Internet, then learn what they need to know for a relationship that
lasts. This is a brand new specialty for a brand new way of partnering.
I know that you can meet a wonderful mate using the Internet because I
did it. I met my husband Drew online in 1998. We are a great match; that's
why I am so sure that you can do it, too. If you are single and looking,
I can help. I offer a complimentary first coaching session -- email me
at Kathryn@KathrynBLord.com to set up your time. Check out my website
and while you are there, subscribe to my FREE newsletter *eMAIL to eMATE*.
I look forward to your being happy partnered!